Talk amongst yourselves. (conversations)
Once you have a baby, life as you might have known it, will never be the same. Ok it may one day, so let's say, for a long, long time.
In 2005 my sister, (the one that's newly engaged) came to live with us. She was “done” with her past life and wanted a new start. Time to start over. I told her, she could come live with us and enjoy Sunny California. Not even a month later, she was at our home. That summer, whilest she was looking around for work and applying here and there, she hung out with me and my other mom friends with our kids. We were out the beach one day. There were about five of us moms, with our toddlers and her, this young, hot, single girl. She definitely, I'm sure, felt out of place. As she sunbathed for the duration of the kids play time, she lay there and listened to our conversations. The conversations went from nap times, to potty training, to birth, and breast feeding, all around our children. We were talking about them and having a great time. It was time to pack up and head home and so we did. It wasn't until we got into the car and my single sister asked, “Is that all you guys talk about??”
What do you mean? I asked.
Your kids, being moms, child birth, do you talk about anything else?
I guess for a single girl this was so odd to her. For me, my second year now as a mom, I didn't know any better. This was our life and this is what we talked about. She asked if we ever talked about any thing other than our kids? I can't really remember what they were now, probably something about, maybe traveling, shopping, or any movies that we had seen, but what she didn't realize was that for a lot of people when you have a child, all those other things fall by the wayside. Your life is your childrens. Once you have one, your days of shopping for yourself, traveling all over the world and going out to the movies will probably become almost non-existant. It may not with the first one, but as more and more children come into your life, these things that you once enjoyed, will slowly slip away. (I'll write later about how to keep them in your life) For now, just know that once these bouncing bundles of pink and blue enter your home, your conversations will be all about them. Adult conversations will be all but a memory.
- ▼ August (6)